Choosing the Perect Wedding Gown
When tiny girls spend their mathematics classes daydreaming of weddings (instead of winning the World Series — not to point out you can’t do both), what do they dream of first? The perfect wedding dress, of course: a robe in ideal embellishments, and sweeping train, the ideal elaborations, and the ideal shoes.
Many brides are lucky. They may search low and low, braving chilly department shops and in your face bridal shops, but eventually they come face-to-face with The One. They know this is The One because they start crying, or their ma or chums all start crying at once. Suddenly the rest of the planning … the theme, the right sort of venues … It all springs to life.
Other brides are not as fortunate. They’ve searched just as hard, working their way through shops across three or four states, but they have not found The One. Instead, they’ve found three or four Contenders, all of which are serviceable and nice, but not earth-shattering enough to tell them that now is definitely time to stop the looking and get on with the planning. These brides have it harder.
Even if you’re the 1st sort of bride, buying the dress is such a significant call that you run a risk of falling into that wallet-skinning class known as the Two-Dress Bride. Here are some tips for picking the ideal dress and avoiding that horrible fate.
1. Bring the entourage, but do not buy. It is fun and useful to bring your mum, mates or sisters on the dress-shopping expedition. It gives you a buffer against an overbearing sales staff, and it’s fun to see if your impressions of perfection are shared by your family and friends, not to mention how they’ll love being part of such a critical call. But irrespective of how ardent everybody gets over a certain dress, don’t buy in the heat of the instant. Give yourself time to reconsider and buy with a cool head later, alone. The vast majority of dresses are non-returnable, so when you’ve bought it, you’ve bought it.
2. Don’t buy too early unless you should. Bridal gowns can take 4 to 10 coming months to come from the manufacturer, but there’s no reason to buy over a year previously, unless your chosen style is going to be discontinued. Give yourself some time to sit on your call. After you pick a robe, you can see one hundred others nearly like it. You’ll become a walking encyclopedia on that style of gown. All the better if you have room to choose.
3. If you have acquired “The One,” stop shopping. Any more window-shopping at this point will only lead you down the line toward the dreary land of Two-Dress Brides. What you want to do instead is remember that blissful feeling of having attempted on The One. Go get The One out of the closet, put it on and stand in front of the mirror. You can remember exactly why it is the One.
4. If you have acquired “The One” and can’t stop shopping, get a second opinion. Show your first and 2nd selections to other brides. Be honest — tell them you have already remortgaged your condo for the first dress, but you believe this second dress might be It. They’ll be honest, too — the 1st one was better. You can feel reassured.
5. Don’t tell yourself “I’ll sell the old dress and select a new one.” This old saw of the Two-Dress Bride just will not work. You will never get more than a fragment of what you paid for your first dress if you purchased it new.
6. Don’t be afraid to aim high — no matter what your position. Some brides knew from the start they would have liked a designer label, but life just did not cooperate by making them heiresses. Yet all isn’t lost if you’re willing to shop courageously. At any given moment, a better-heeled bride is selling her once-used St. Pucchi or Ulla-Maija on eBay. She paid thousands on thousands, but you, smart client, will pay half that or less. To take this road, you need to shop sooner than other brides so you’ll have a choice of gowns.
7. Shop on the web, but never send a check. Bridal gown businesses sometimes have a method of vanishing overnite. Whatever what the proprietor tells you, never make a purchase as large as a marriage robe without the chargeback protection of a Visa card. If they assert they cannot take plastic, move on.
8. Don’t hold out forever for The One. Some brides never find The One. What they do find is some dresses they look handsome in. If you are this bride, try starting your planning from the theme instead of the dress. You’ll probably eventually get sick to death of dress shopping. When that happens, “good enough” truly will be acceptable. Focus on other aspects of the wedding that mean a lot to you, like the venue, the food, or the inevitable adoration of your soon-to-be husband.
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Filed under Wedding Gowns by on Jun 14th, 2009. 
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